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You have to do all of the above.
If you want to make pizza, and you are made of flour and tomatoes, what do you need to do?
You need to turn that flower into dough and let it rise with a little yeast. So you have to work on yourself to change yourself.
But you also need to meet someone that's cheese.
If you just meet cheese, that flour within you is useless.
If you just become dough without cheese, you're still useless.
You have to do both. But one thing at a time.